Archive for December, 2012

The new year resolution you’ll rarely read about


I started writing this post on Christmas eve and it’s based on a true story.

// Original post attempt starts here

I’ve never been a fan of new year’s resolutions but I always found it amusing to ask others about theirs (and when possible see how long it’d be before they give up on them).
Few days ago I asked a friend: what are your new year’s resolutions? As I was getting that flow of impressive “I’m gonna do this, and that, and of course, be fit” I regretted asking this question because I knew I’ll have to answer it shortly.
And I was right! Damn it! As I got the inevitable “What about you?” I felt like a student who didn’t study for his exam. I was so pressured to come up with a smart, impressive and well articulated answer. However all I could think of was: “I want to be happy”.
I didn’t feel comfortable saying it though. I mean, what kind of new year resolution would that one sound like? “Be happy? Who cares about you being happy?” I could almost hear myself asking. I wanted to come up with something massive related to business, making money, creating value (my favorite), changing the world. I simply couldn’t.
I was thinking “objectives, goals” and how they should be SMART*. Didn’t come up with any.
I didn’t reply. (Actually I did but the answer isn’t really blog-friendly so I’m saving that part.)

But thinking about it I do believe that being happy is way more important that almost everything else that modern life conditions us to look for. Core elements of real happiness like values, family, love, spirituality, simple pleasures of life are more and more overlooked. Instead we all tend to hustle for sexier achievements like wealth, fame, power, etc… What do we end up having? I’m tempted to say: More successful yet unhappy people.
(If you’re reading this, please don’t think that I’m giving up on fighting to be successful. On the contrary, I’ll fight harder only because I’ll be happier).

// Original post attempt ends here

I honestly gave up on my writing endeavor at that point, finding it impossible to explain rationally why being happy is a valid resolution in today’s world without sounding softy or insane. And I decided to keep my failing attempt to myself.
Until just few minutes ago when I read this post by Sir Richard Branson:

How awesome is that? If Richard Branson and I both think it’s true, then it’s gotta be true. And I thought: Screw it, let’s just post it!

Whether you make it your new year resolution or not I wish you all real happiness in 2013. Howard Thurman said: “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Be happy, come alive and the most amazing things will just happen!

(*SMART = Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant & Timely)


%d bloggers like this: